Beggers Cant Be Choosy...

Look, I have had only 1 guy break up with me...the first one I ever dated and that was for a 7yr period. He was a big loser. Well, they all were, or I wouldnt have left! LOL No really, here is the deal...I have friends that are DYING to meet a guy. What do they do? Go to work, work out, go to a club. OKAYYYY......and? I have invited many of my single friends to marketing events, chamber events, strictly business events, Biz seminars, knitting groups, grand openings of golf course country club events and I get SHUT DOWN every time. Why would I want to go there? I dont golf? My business has to do with women. I dont want to join the chamber. I dont knit and how do I meet a guy at a knitting group? HELLO!!!

Almost all people that attend marketing or business related events are men and guess what? THEY OWN THEIR OWN BUSINESS! Usually I am one of maybe at the most 5 girls in an entire room. REALLY! Of course I come with my BF, so the other 2-4 ladies in the room are swarmed with questions about their business and getting business cards left and right. Why go to a golf course opening? CAUSE MOST GOLFERS ARE MEN! Why go to a knitting group? Cause most of the women their have single sons or grandsons that they are ALWAYS trying to hook up! REALLY! My knitting group earned me 6 dates with a lawyer, banker, med school student and a few other guys, but it was a great time! It could have been a match!

Listen ladies, we arent getting any younger and the dating pool is getting bigger. If you really want to meet someone, jump at every opportunity or invitation to meet a new person that is not part of your normal routine! This is the way you meet a guy, especially if you dont want to do the bar routine. Good luck this week. Get out of your comfort zone and make it your priority to go somewhere different, new and not with a pack of girls. Make your entrance memorable!

Separation is always good...

Its good for couples to have activities they do together and apart. You shouldnt be doing everything together or you wont realize the special times you do share together. Its ok, go out with the girls, take a trip, spend the night away...absence makes the heart grow fonder!

Relationships and Friends

Often, when you start dating someone, you start to stay in more, and not go out as much. This leads to a different group of friends. Yes, you still have single friends, but they are going out to the bars, wanting to meet someone. You are more likely to meet up with other couples to go out with because you have more in common, you are more settled. Its a weird transition when it happens, but its natural. Dont be alarmed, you arent losing old friends, just re-defining what you want out of your friends.

Money in a Relationship

There are many different theories on this subject, but there is one best solution. Share everything. Each person is going to make a different salary, but both are working equally as hard to bring in the income. Have shared bank accounts, separate ones too, but the main account needs to be shared so that you have a sense of unity. You are together, as 1 unit.

Before making large purchases, depending on your idea of large could differ from one couple to the next, but always ask the other partner if the purchase is ok. This keeps everyone happy and feels like they know where their collective money is being spent.

sooo happy

My boyfriend is the kindest and most giving person, (next to me ;) ) that I have ever met! We have been dating since the moment we met. I was showered with love since the day we met. Dont think its not reciprocal though! ;)

We are both very giving and kind. We are both hard workers and have started a local business. We also share the same interests, hobbies, and passions. We both LOVE animals, LOVE to garden, LOVE to sell, etc, etc!

The only difference between us is that I am fast and impulsive and he is slower and methodical. I am younger, he is older. I am finishing my PhD, he has an associates and happy. He likes steak, I like shrimp. Other than that, we are a perfect match.

His friends tell me he was a lot different when he was younger. Well, who isnt?! (or wasnt!?!! lol) We all change our jobs, habits and friends over time. My mom is so calm and such a lady, but every times she sees him she just huggs, pats, and kisses on him. She sees and loves how sweet and wonderful he is to me. He is not only my boyfriend, but my best friend. Thats a great love. Some people say they would be lucky to be in love, but to be lucky enough to be in love with your best friend is priceless.

Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder...

My boyfriend has been living with me for 4 mths in a 2 bedroom apartment that we share with my 2 cats and his black lab. Lets just say it's tight quarters. Sometimes we might snap at each other, but very rarely. After a tough week at work, I was looking forward to some alone time this weekend, as the BF was going out of town. After 2 days, I am ready for him to return.

It isnt just my boyfriend living here; he is my best friend that I share my life with. So though I do think everyone needs some space, I eagerly called him at 7am to find out when he was coming home! Sometimes sending someone away for a while makes you realize just how much you love them!

Don't Air Your Dirty Laundry....

I recently had dinner with a friend of over 20 years that brought up my ex-boyfriend. She mentioned how incompetent, paranoid, and basically crazy, he was, which caused him to lose a major account to his friend, and let his partner fill his shoes and then some. The account he lost was to her relative, so she knew first hand.

She asked me about his paranoia, controlling behavior, etc and I didnt indulge. There are certain things you do not share with the general public. You quickly learn of someone's mental illnesses and move on. Be it idiosyncrasy, family bouts with schizophrenia, OCD, verbal/physical abuse, or just plain out not tolerable together and move on! It's not your place to air the laundry, but if you hang out long enough, you will figure it out, cause everyone else has, and YOU DONT want to be the butt of the joke and the wife of an incredible loser. Move on girls! Life is not worth settling and everyone knowing the laundry...